"Love will feel (and maybe even be) much more accessible when you stop thinking of it as this grand thing you have to be deserving of. It's small, in its short moments, in its quick gestures, in its normal everyday things. When you think of it as something you have to discover or catch or deserve, you'll miss how alive it already is around you."
-slfcare | tumblr
There comes a point in our lives where we mostly desire love; the romantic kind, that we perhaps forget to acknowledge and bask in the love we already have around us. Is it that we reduce the grand concept and feeling to something as narrow as romance? Do not get me wrong, romance is a great thing to experience in both giving and receiving. I am a hopeless romantic, too, thanks to all the fairy-tale books I've read, but we tend to dismiss that it is but part of a whole. I think the Greek did it justice by having eight words that corresponded to different types of love than just bunching it into one word:
Eros (romantic, passionate love)
Philia (affectionate love)
Storge (familiar love)
Agape (selfless, universal love)
Philautia (self love)
Ludus (playful love)
Pragma (enduring love)
Mania (obsessive love)
We try so hard to be noticed. To finally have someone to fulfill the dreams that have kept us up too many nights to count. We spend our energy planning how we would like to meet this person, what we want to look like, sound like and everything in between. Sometimes, we might even feel inadequate. Think that maybe we could be lighter in complexion, taller, louder even smarter that we try to change ourselves. To make ourselves more 'deserving'. So, we spend our time looking for remedies. Ways to make ourselves 'better', different. Forgetting that we are already masterpieces even with our flaws, because of our flaws.
We look for this perfectly imagined love that we miss out on the love that already exists around and within us. The love we get from our families as we share a meal at the table, the love from our friends as we laugh goofily about a moment we shared, the love in nature; the sun on our face, the cool zephyr dancing on our skin, the clear waters of a spring that we dip our feet in, our cats rubbing their furry heads against our legs and the birds chirping from the trees, the love get from a stranger smiling as they pass us by and the love we get from our Creator who continues to provide for us. Love is not a reward to be earned after some achievement. We should have it by just being our imperfect selves and it does exist for us. We should look in the right places or run the risk of missing the abundance that is already for us.
Be you and focus on the love that you already have, the love that you seek will find you. And when you get the one you seek, remember that it lies in the little moments you share within the bustle of the day; the little smiles, the stare across the room, the touches as you move past each other, not just the grand gestures on a stage in front of the world.
So, my darling, while you are on a quest to find this grand love of your life and get swept off your feet, don't forget to acknowledge the love that you already have around you. Dwell in it and let it fill you. It has always lived within you without having to be sought. Bring it back from that little room you locked it in. Watch it flourish, fill every space within you and breathe life in your soul.
Heart and soul
-A
Baarakallah feeki
Nice work 👍
Nice one this is way to go