Change is not a Bad Thing

Of accepting and embracing the changes.

You changed.

We’ve all heard this line in some form at some point in our lives. I don’t think it is the type of thing you'd want to hear first thing in the morning because it’s not a compliment. It is rather a complaint; a denunciation of who you are and becoming. Worst of all, it isn't the entire truth most of the times.

It simply means you are no longer who they want you to be. No longer the puppet, the ping-pong ball they can keep tossing back and forth nor the dump for negativity and the clay they can mold and destroy how they want and when they want to.

As humans - the most versatile and malleable creatures in creation, aren't we allowed to change?

We are supposed to change, adapt and evolve into different - better, versions of ourselves. We cannot be expected to be the people we were three years ago, not even a week ago. The world has way too much stimuli we constantly need to respond to.

It is but a principle of survival. Evolution; growth.

If you think about it, the reasons for which you’d hear such statements are completely laughable and ridiculous at best. Wising up and returning the energy you get, for instance. We all have those people we have tried too hard with. Either out of the kindness of our hearts - gullibility maybe, the need to maintain a relationship for family and/or work or, the reason I'd not want to say out loud, infatuation with said person(s). Once you’ve realised your worth and moved on from all the situation where you force a vibe, you’re bound to be accused of this change. Something I’d say is narcissistic because your presence was never appreciated to begin with and now your absence is bringing complaints. The audacity!

Ignoring situations that cause you discomfort is also bound to let the accusations rain. Think of that situation where you’re being forced to do something you can't or the person keeps talking about how uptight you are (Lord knows I've been here too many times) or, even better, you keep having advances made at you that you’ve clearly stated you're not interested in. You're placed in a tough spot and they keep saying you're different. All because the energy has shifted and can no longer carry the conversation the same way?

See, the reasons are many. I’m pretty sure everyone can add at least one other. But even after knowing that change is good and believing it, there is this need to justify yourself sometimes. To keep the approval maybe. Whatever the reason is, it is okay to feel that way. It means you care, and that is what keeps you in check every once in a while. You can't let it get to your head though. Do you! What liberates you. What makes you happy, and what makes you grow and better yourself.

Growth is a not a bad thing. Yes, you are changing but you are still the same person. Think of it as an update to an app. It will ultimately perform the same functions, just differently, hopefully more efficiently, and with added features to protect function. So, go on and change, grow and evolve. The world is too beautiful to be seen from one angle, you might miss out on what could be the best part.

“If we don’t change, we don’t grow. if we don’t grow, we aren’t really living” – Gail Sheehy

Heart and soul

- A